Monday, April 23, 2007
Rough Day/Dear Dr. Dilley
I was told I am a bad mother by Allison's asthma specialist. He says I care more about Ethan and his needs than I do about Allison's. How does he know this? He knows because, when I took her to see him the other day because she was SICK, her lung function was down to only 54%...lower than it was the first time we saw him for a well-visit and she was healthy. Well, excuse me but, um...DUUUUUUUUHHH!!! SHE WAS SICK!
Dear Mr. Asthma Doctor:
When asthmatics get sick...catch a cold in Allison's case...their lung function goes down. And guess what? Their mother's really don't have much control of the germs, bacteria and viruses floating around in the air, especially out in public!
Lauri Smith-a mother who loves boys more than girls
Anyway...this all goes back to a letter we got on Friday, from Ratner, Dilley & Associates, LLP, stating:
"Please be advised that we will no longer be able to treat your child as a patient. All scheduled appointments have been canceled."
This came out of the blue Friday afternoon, so of course there was no one we could talk to until today. Finally, after several calls, Dr. Dilley finally called me back and asked what I needed, like he didn't know. I asked why they were dropping Allison as a patient, and that was the reason. Because I obviously was not following his directions for her meds and her lung function was too low, and that I care more about my "special needs son" than I do her.
Well, dammit! I made her cut her smoking back to only one pack a day! She still needs to use her inhaler, too? Geesh! And because dust in the house has a bad affect on her lungs, I make sure she dusts everything at least every other day. I thought I was doing good!
Dear Mr. Asthma Doctor:
Even when asthma patients are taking their maintainence meds, they can still get sick, and need a little extra medical intervention; which I was doing on the day you decided I was an unfit parent and could no longer treat my daughter.
Lauri Smith-a mother who has done more than her fair share of Asthma, ADD, ADHD, Bipolar, Dyslexia and Schizophrenia research.
Dr. Dilley...you do not have a "God Complex". You have something much, much worse. After speaking with you on the phone this afternoon, I have realized that you truly believe you are so much better than everyone else. That you know all. That you know all about me, my family and our life situation after only 2 fifteen minute visits in your office, and that you are able to make judgements about what kind of mother I am. God does not even judge like this...and that is what makes you so much worse. The thing is, I thought you were a good doctor-I respected and trusted you and thought you were good at what you do. However, you have shown your true colors and I no longer have any respect, much less trust, for you as a doctor or a man; and you can't get any lower than that.
Very Truly Sincerely,
Lauri Smith-a mother who loves and guards her children more fiercly than you could ever imagine.